Friday, July 13, 2012
God, Yourself,and Others!
This book is very interesting; DNA of relationships.
Now i want us to talk about the DNA Code.The relationship DNA code is made up of three simple yet profound strands:
1 .You are made for relationships
Relationships are not an option. From the moment you're born, You're in relationship with your parents,soon you're in relationship with other children.Later you have relationships in workplace, and you develop relationships with close friends.And eventually most people develop a relationship with someone they deeply love.
When a relationship becomes difficult or painful, we tend to dismiss the relationship and may for a while try to abandon all relationships.But eventually we come back and seek connection once again.
it is never just about the other person.Think about this; the problem you have with another person is often a problem you have with yourself.it means you are only what by what people say or do only when something rings true.At times, the real problem is not what people say about us.The problem is how you see yourself.you are offended by someone else, and that, then, becomes a relationship problem.instead, you need to take a look at yourself through the right lens.many times the statement that offends us isn't true at all.The problem is how we react to what others do or say.Any accurate snapshot of a relationship problem never focuses just on the other person-the picture must also include you.
2. You are made with the capacity to choose
God created us with the capacity to choose.You cant choose your relationships-you can choose how you will act in those relationships.God gave you the power to choose. So when it comes to how you will respond in a relationship that has hit some rough waters, never tell yourself "i have no choice!" That a lie.The truth is, you do have a choice.Lots of choices.You have to take control of your life, stop being a victim of your past, and start moving on to something new.
Not choosing is itself a choice.The mistake so many of us make in our relationships is to think that if we just let things stay as they are, if we can postpone making a choice, making a change, then we can get through a different experience.The most exciting part is that i am made with the capacity to choose is that all of my thoughts determine all of my actions and emotions.
3. You are made to take responsibility for yourself
The story of Adam and Eve is the story of us.They were made to take responsibility for themselves.when faced with the consequences of their choices,neither Adam nor Eve was willing to take responsibility.Each pointed the finger and blamed someone else.We are like that .when we find ourselves in a relationship difficulty, we point the finger at the other person.It's him.it's her.
We can't change the fact that God made us for relationships.you can work either with or against this DNA, but you cant choose whether it exists.The only choice you have is whether you will work to make those relationships great or allow them to cause you-and others-great pain.
So choose wisely.Choose life.And be prepared to take personal responsibility to make the decisions-even the hard ones-that can keep joy, peace and satisfaction flowing into your relationships.
If you can get the book fantastic! it is worth it!
DNA OF RELATIONSHIPS BY DR GARY SMALLEY
Now i want us to talk about the DNA Code.The relationship DNA code is made up of three simple yet profound strands:
1 .You are made for relationships
Relationships are not an option. From the moment you're born, You're in relationship with your parents,soon you're in relationship with other children.Later you have relationships in workplace, and you develop relationships with close friends.And eventually most people develop a relationship with someone they deeply love.
When a relationship becomes difficult or painful, we tend to dismiss the relationship and may for a while try to abandon all relationships.But eventually we come back and seek connection once again.
it is never just about the other person.Think about this; the problem you have with another person is often a problem you have with yourself.it means you are only what by what people say or do only when something rings true.At times, the real problem is not what people say about us.The problem is how you see yourself.you are offended by someone else, and that, then, becomes a relationship problem.instead, you need to take a look at yourself through the right lens.many times the statement that offends us isn't true at all.The problem is how we react to what others do or say.Any accurate snapshot of a relationship problem never focuses just on the other person-the picture must also include you.
2. You are made with the capacity to choose
God created us with the capacity to choose.You cant choose your relationships-you can choose how you will act in those relationships.God gave you the power to choose. So when it comes to how you will respond in a relationship that has hit some rough waters, never tell yourself "i have no choice!" That a lie.The truth is, you do have a choice.Lots of choices.You have to take control of your life, stop being a victim of your past, and start moving on to something new.
Not choosing is itself a choice.The mistake so many of us make in our relationships is to think that if we just let things stay as they are, if we can postpone making a choice, making a change, then we can get through a different experience.The most exciting part is that i am made with the capacity to choose is that all of my thoughts determine all of my actions and emotions.
3. You are made to take responsibility for yourself
The story of Adam and Eve is the story of us.They were made to take responsibility for themselves.when faced with the consequences of their choices,neither Adam nor Eve was willing to take responsibility.Each pointed the finger and blamed someone else.We are like that .when we find ourselves in a relationship difficulty, we point the finger at the other person.It's him.it's her.
We can't change the fact that God made us for relationships.you can work either with or against this DNA, but you cant choose whether it exists.The only choice you have is whether you will work to make those relationships great or allow them to cause you-and others-great pain.
So choose wisely.Choose life.And be prepared to take personal responsibility to make the decisions-even the hard ones-that can keep joy, peace and satisfaction flowing into your relationships.
If you can get the book fantastic! it is worth it!
DNA OF RELATIONSHIPS BY DR GARY SMALLEY
Thursday, July 12, 2012
THE DNA OF RELATIONSHIPS
LIFE IS RELATIONSHIPS;THE REST IS JUST DETAILS.
YOU ARE MADE FOR THREE KINDS OF RELATIONSHIPS:WITH OTHERS WITH YOURSELF, AND WITH GOD.OUR RELATIONSHIPS IS NOT ONLY IMPORTANT, BUT EACH IS INTRICATELY INTERRELATED.IF ONE RELATIONSHIP IS OUT OF BALANCE, THE OTHERS WILL BE AFFECTED.
LIFE IS RELATIONSHIPS;THE REST IS JUST DETAILS.
YOU ARE MADE FOR THREE KINDS OF RELATIONSHIPS:WITH OTHERS WITH YOURSELF, AND WITH GOD.OUR RELATIONSHIPS IS NOT ONLY IMPORTANT, BUT EACH IS INTRICATELY INTERRELATED.IF ONE RELATIONSHIP IS OUT OF BALANCE, THE OTHERS WILL BE AFFECTED.
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